One of my maxims for ATTRACTING women is to make
them ABC…to make them ALWAYS BE CHASING me.
In my book I call this PRIZING.
PRIZING women is important because when you do things to make women chase you
they will begin to see you as a PRIZE they want to win over.
One technique for PRIZING I talk about in my book is Open Loop.
An Open Loop is an unfinished thought or story. So, within the context of
ATTRACTING women, some examples of open loops are:
When a man tells a woman a really juicy story and just at the point that she
really starts to get into the story, he intentionally withholds the conclusion
from her.
Or…
When a man acts as if he knows something about a woman but when she asks him
what it is he refuses to tell her.
Are you guys starting to get why open loops are so powerful?
They are powerful because they leave women wanting and reaching for more.
And when women are wanting and reaching for more, they are CHASING us.
I have noticed a few of the guys who have recently purchased my book have
spawned quite a few online discussions on open loops.
This is great because it tells me that guys are really getting out there and
using the ideas in my book.
Recently I have been thinking a lot about the
psychological mechanism behind open loops: What is it about ‘open loops’ that
cause women to want and reach for more?
And about a month ago it dawned on me while watching TV. I was watching a
television show that I did not find terribly interesting, and out of nowhere
the power went out. The weird thing was that inside I felt this emotional
“want” to find out the conclusion to a TV show I did not even find
interesting. But the more I thought about this the more I realized that I did
not really want to find out what happened, but wanted closure and resolution.
Even though the show was not very good, it had created some unresolved
emotional tension in me. The power going out made me aware of my need to
release, resolve, and bring closure to this tension.
So, what I have discovered is that the psychological mechanism behind open
loops is in creating unresolved emotional tension.
What I have realized is that besides using open loops, there are literally
hundreds of ways of creating, and increasing unresolved emotional tension.
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Doing this is what I call a “Tension Loop”.
The structure of a Tension Loop is to first do something that creates
unresolved emotional tension.
For example, you could do this by using an open loop: an unfinished
story or thought.
Or you could do this by creating a barrier between you and a woman. If
you have chemistry with a woman you might want to hint that there is
already a woman in your life, planting the seed in her mind that even
though you and her like each other, it probably will not work out
between the both of you because you are already taken.
Or you could feign being really offended by something a woman does or
says. If she asks you, “What do you do for a living?” you could hasten
back with, “I am not the guy who used to work with you at Mc. Donald’s,
and if we ever hang out there is to be no talk about your career path at
McDonalds…I wouldn’t want you to embarrass me in front of my friends”.
Or you could do something to invalidate a woman, such as, acting
unimpressed with her or even hinting at not liking her.
Now once you have created this tension loop inside a woman, you can keep
going with it: you can build it larger and more intense.
For example, if you create a tension loop by acting offended by
something a woman says or does, you can make that tension loop larger
and more intense by continuing to act offended.
But at a certain point, you need to close the tension loop-bring some
resolution, release, or closure to it.
I have found that people who are effective at using tension loops-for
example, auspicious writers and marketers-all follow a similar
structure:
1) They do or say something to create the tension loop
2) They keep going with what they said or did, making the “tension loop”
larger
3) They do something to close the tension loop; bring some release or
resolution to it
4) They open it back up, but just a little bit.
Also, have you ever noticed that this is the structure of many great
movies? Think about it: many great movies start off with a tension loop
by introducing some kind of conflict or drama. Then, the tension loop
increases up until the point of the climax. Then the tension loop is
closed by bringing some resolution to the conflict or drama. And,
finally, the movie ends by either the tension loop being opened back up
or a new tension loop opening up. This makes the movie watcher want to
see the sequel.
Lets now look at an example of sparking a tension loop, building it,
closing it, and then opening up a new tension loop-but just a little
bit.
A few days ago, after exchanging some light banter with a woman, I said
to her, “You know…I don’t like you…”
She gave me a flabbergasted look and panted, “What!” (Being the
attractive woman that she was, she had probably never had anyone say
this to her before).
I had sparked a tension loop in her.
Next I made the tension loop bigger by saying, “I’m sorry, that probably
came off wrong. Let me be more specific: I really don’t like you.”
Here I was making the tension loop larger: intensifying all of that
unresolved emotional tension inside her. Now although this is very
powerful, you do not want to create so much tension that she snaps-you
do not want to PUSH her away completely. So the idea is to take her to
the edge-or close to it. It is similar to kids blowing bubbles. They
want to blow as much air into the bubble to ensure that it is as big as
possible, but if they blow too much air into the bubble it will pop.
This takes practice, and you really have to learn to observe how much
emotional tension she is experiencing at any given moment.
Then I said to her, “And the reason I don’t like you is that you remind
me of this girl Miranda whom I hated in the second grade. I hated her
because she used to always beat me at hot hands (BTW, “hot hands” is a
game that children play.).
Then I challenged her to a game of hot hands, defeated her quickly, and
gloated, “Yes…I am the winner, and, actually, I like you now…since you
really stink at hot hands”.
So here I closed the tension loop by bringing resolution and release to
her emotional tension. And then I opened a new loop-just a little bit-by
telling her that she stinks at hot hands.
There is a lot of psychologically going on here. And in this newsletter
I am only scratching the surface of what I am doing. I am going to do
another newsletter soon, where I will go a lot deeper into the
psychological mechanisms of tension loops.
But if you are really interested in mastering the techniques for
triggering these underlying psychological mechanisms in women come visit
me at:
http://www.realworldseduction.com
P.S.-If you have a question for me, please email me at:
swinggcat@realworldseduction.com
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