Chemistry.com Feature Writer
It's the moment of truth. You've spotted the perfect profile and shared a wink with each other. You open up a new email, address the message, choose a flirty subject line and then what? Your creative juices have all gone dry. Your mind is blank. You're staring at an empty message, and you've got nowhere to go.
Actually, you've only just begun. Remember, we're all here to meet and learn more about each other. So what's your best first move?
First, keep the tone light and friendly. By all means, stay away from canned messages (copying and pasting the same note to several people). Instead, get personal by focusing on what that person has written in their profile or on one of their responses to your questions. Something there caught your interest, mention it and use their words as subtle cues to get started.
Still having trouble? Delve into questions about interests, goals, activities and any key points that may have struck you in the profile. All it takes is a little honest interest in the person at the other end of the keyboard. Start by introducing yourself, and then jump into questions like:
1. What do you like to do for fun?
2. What do you do for work?
3. What is your dream job?
4. Do you have any hobbies?
5. Do you like to travel?
6. What is your favorite food or restaurant?
7. What is your favorite book or author?
8. What's your favorite holiday destination?
9. Are you a "dog" or "cat" person?
10. What would you do if you won the lottery?
11. What is your favorite style of music?
12. What magazine is on your coffee table right now?
13. What five famous people would you invite to dinner?
The most important key? Remember to have fun! Just be
sure to keep it light and avoid the third degree. The goal is to
find shared interests, and activities you have in common. Once you
find those important key points, conversation should flow freely!