If you are like most
men out there, you probably have no idea what makes those head-strong,
powerful and intelligent career women “tick”.
I am referring to
those women you see in power suits, managing a company or running her own,
who seem completely invincible and on top of the world. These women know
what they want in life and they do not stop until they get it. They are fast
talkers, they can close a deal with a simple wink of the eye, they can make
a male subordinate cry with the slightest of disappointed looks and they
will never settle for anything less than perfect sexual equality.
Furthermore, I think we can all agree that these are the sexiest women out
there. Men just love to imagine what they have on underneath those designer
suits.
The common train of
thought and logic would lead you to assume that these women are just as
domineering in the bedroom behind closed doors. Generally speaking, this is
actually the furthest thing from the truth. Every person out there is
different with regards to their personality in life and what turns them on
after hours, and there will be many variations and deviances from the norm.
However, most of the fierce and passionate women in the workforce love
nothing more than to come home and be completely subjugated and ravaged by a
very strong and masculine man.
In all sexual
relationships there must be a dominant and a submissive. Two dominants or
two submissives can get together and have magnificent sexual experiences,
but there will be a certain something lacking emotionally. Each one will
feel less psychologically satisfied because they will not be able to express
their dominant or submissive traits quite a comfortably as they should. Pop
culture tends to assume that people who are submissive during sex are doing
so because this is how they want to be perceived in life, they want to be
dominated. Even old psychology books will back up this old principle.
Fortunately, the psychology of arousal and the logic that lies behind
fantasies and the roles we play during lovemaking has been virtually
re-written by Dr. Michael J. Bader, the leading psychoanalyst in this
delicious area of expertise. To really sum up his new theories in a very
rough manner, our sexual desires are almost the opposite of who we are in
normal everyday life scenarios. His theories are applied to every sexual
thought, idea and fantasy and not just dominant and subordinate behaviors.
His new book made me quite hungry with dirty little thoughts.
A dominant
women enjoys being submissive in bed because she is able to achieve
stimulation. It is impossible to feel any kind of guilt, worry, or
anxiety and become sexually aroused at the same time. Professional
career women very often feel like they are too overbearing towards
men, too controlling and too dominant. That causes a certain level
of stress. This stress is completely alleviated by becoming the
submissive during intercourse thereby allowing her to achieve
stimulation. These and other new brilliant revelations have created
a paradigm shift in the psychology of sex. And I think it is divine
to have an in depth understanding of what makes the other person
scream with hot blooded delight.