The great thing about online dating is that it isn’t instant (unless your
You’re not talking to someone face-to-face, you have the
opportunity to fully think out what to say to someone.
Delete the awful
sentences and rewrite your reply so you’ll have a real chance of a response.
But what if you’re just not used to answering personal ads online?
Don’t worry, here are some sample emails that you can send, either
as a response to someone’s personal ad or a reply to their message
Just remember to make the changes that will make
your email a personal note from you. (The XXX is where you make
I’m really glad that you joined XXX(dating service) because now I’ve
As you have written in your profile, I also
share in XXX(interests) and like to XXX(activities).
of my favorite memories with XXX(activity) was when I… (fill in the
rest of a short story here).
Right now I’m out the door
to XXX(personal errands). Email me again and we can talk some more
and find out what more we have in common.
TTYS (Talk to
I normally wait for others to message me first (I hate being forward
and showy) but your profile really caught my attention.
find it hard to believe that we have so much in common, live so
close to each other, and I haven’t bumped into you except for this
Just like you I am also a fan of XXX
(something here, books, music, movie genres, dining, etc) and last
did XXX(activity) only a XXX week or so (time period) ago. I went to
XXX(place) to do XXX(activity). I think they have the best
XXX(whatever it is) in the XXX (your local area).
plan a chat time at XXX(dating service) to talk over the
XXX(whatever from previous paragraph). I’m usually good to catch
online around XXX(time here).
Bye for now!
Nice photo. Did you have a friend that hates you take it?
Seriously though, you have a great smile. And I like how you
describe yourself because I think we have XXX(activity) in common.
PS. I’ve updated my photos to include a smile just for you!
The secret to a good
response to someone’s personal ad or their response to your personal
ad is to keep it short; to connect through what you already know
about that someone; point out only one or two things you have in
common and, finally, don’t ramble on about your life, the
disappointments you’ve had, the hard day at work or anything that
would be complaining!
Follow what I say and you’ll be
happily meeting new people online and asking for, and getting, the
dates you want!