The Best Ways to Handle
Seduction and Body Language
There’s something that often happens
when you’re out playing the ‘seduction game’ – that is, when you’re
actively looking out for girls you think you’d like to hook-up with.
Many men have experienced it, and many thousands of men still do
experience it when they themselves are out playing the game. It
usually goes something like this: you’re in a group, talking to a
couple of girls. You’re with a friend or two, perhaps having drinks
in a bar or at a party. You’ve got your eye on one girl in the group
in particular and want to make something happen, make a bit of a
connection. Thing is, she’s proving the hardest to connect to –
sure, she smiles and talks to you nicely and politely, but she’s not
returning your flirtatious gestures and comments much, if at all.
It’s like she’s playing hard to get or something, whereas her female
friends seem to be much more playful and flirty.
This doesn’t happen because you aren’t her type or just because
sometimes these things happen (or don’t) – there’s a different,
special reason the girl you’re interested in doesn’t appear to be
interested in you and it’s got a lot to do with psychology and
social standing. You see, when you show you’re interested in a
good-looking girl who’s with her friends, you inadvertently bump up
her ego and feeling of self-worth. She knows you’ve chosen and are
most interested in her and likes this feeling of elevated
importance. However, she also knows that if she reacts by becoming
really flirty and obviously attracted to YOU, she’ll lose the higher
social value she has over her friends (probably the reason you
targeted her in the first place), so she therefore maintains her
unattainable, “I’m a bit too good for you” status.
However, you can blow this problem out of the water by using
DEFLECTION THEORY. You turn the situation on its head and reverse
the psychology of your target female by deflecting your attention
AWAY from her and ONTO one or more of her friends. When you show her
friends (who have lower social value/worth than your target female)
more attention and affection, you challenge her ego. So, in an
effort to regain her superiority in the hierarchy of her circle of
friends, the girl you’re really interested in will subconsciously
invest much MORE interest in you by flirting and being playful. As
so many women do, she gives into wanting what she feels she cannot
have – and, of course, you’ll be happy to have her. She is, after
all, the hottest of the group and the one you wanted in the first
place. Here’s how to deflect your attention onto one of her friends
to make her (the girl you want) feel as if her ego has been
challenged and thus make her feel an instant and undeniable desire
to get your attention and “win” you back.
1. Use strong eye contact when talking to all of the girls. However,
when you’re talking to your target female, occasionally glance away
and towards one of the other girls (who will probably be talking
amongst themselves or to your friend/friends if you’re with any) and
give a slight smile before looking back at your target. This
jackhammers a sense of competition into the subconscious mind of the
girl you’re really interested in and immediately makes her want to
fight for your attention.
2. Casually make physical contact with her friends more than her.
For example, touch them on the side of their arm to get their
attention or when laughing and joking.
3. When sitting down or standing around talking as a group, face
slightly more (as in, the direction of your body/torso) in the
direction of one of her friends more than her.
Using deflection theory to challenge a girl you’re interested in’s
ego and therefore make her want you more is just one psychological
technique you can use to boost your pick-up game. Combine it with
others and you maximize your success with the opposite sex in ways
most men have and never will experience. You can be the guy that
gets the girl!
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