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 Do you remember ‘Show
and Tell?’ The anticipation and excitement you felt when you were
five years old and it was your turn to show your favorite possession
and then tell about it?
When you join an online dating service, you have much the same
feeling of anticipation and excitement. The prospect of having
people approve of you and possibly accept you as someone they want
to have around them is exhilarating.
But how do you create a powerful and perfect online dating profile?
We have all heard that honesty is the best policy…It is. Be honest.
The person you are trying to attract will eventually agree to meet
you if you have written an eye catching profile.
Statistics show that people can only keep up a façade of playing
someone other than themselves for 3-6 months. Do you want to find
Mr./Mrs. Right only to lose him/her because you have become Mr./Mrs.
Wrong to them? Adhere to the honesty policy.
Be clever and funny, but be sincere. If you’re funny, then show it
in your writing. Don’t tell someone you’re funny, e.g. “I’m funny
and have a great sense of humor.” That won’t make them a believer.
Here is an example of something funny and clever. Football fans will
enjoy this one. (This is not for your profile, but used as an
example of funny lines I have used when talking to an audience.):
“If your partner is more concerned about that 3rd and 1 on
television, than the 4th and 23 in your own living room, then you
might be another statistic on the playing field of love. Tell them
to not try for a 58 yard field goal, go for six instead.”
Do you see what I’m writing about? Word pictures are very powerful
tools that help draw the reader in and help to reveal who you are
and what you are about.
Another important aspect of your online dating profile is you. Show
them a picture of you. A picture speaks volumes (as long as the
listener is tuned in) about who you are. If you say you are sporty
but have a picture of you sitting on a couch, what does that say?
Use a picture of you on a bike, in a race, waterskiing, etc.
The eyes reveal a lot in a picture. If they sparkle with what’s
called a “catch light,” the viewer will be more drawn to you. (A
catch light is the little light that shows up on the pupil). If your
eyes look suave, the viewer will probably click you away.
Make sure to do a spelling and grammar check before you post to an
online dating site. Words that are spelt incorrectly and bad
punctuation can tune a lot of people out and then they will click
you off.
A few last words of advice: Forget about negativity in your profile
and don’t talk about ex-relationships. That will give the reader a
sense that you are a serial dater and perhaps a heartbreaker.
Avoid phrases like: “I don’t play games.”; “I love long walks on the
beach, candlelight dinners, and romantic nights by the fire.” You
can show them that when you meet them.
Every person I have surveyed in the past has said that lines such as
the above are red flags and a sign that he/she is a “player.”
Online dating can be fun, exciting and successful, but be safe and
enjoy the process. When you finally connect with someone on an
online dating site, agree to meet at a coffee shop during the day.
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Jaci Rae author of:
Winning Points with the Woman in Your Life One Touchdown at a Time
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