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 How do you meet the
woman or man in your life if you haven't already done so? If you’re
tired of the same old dating scene, meeting at a bar or conversing
on the Internet, then I have a few really great ideas that may help
brighten your prospects.
If you don't already have a woman or a man in your life, it may seem
extraordinarily hard to meet the right person. Maybe you've done the
online dating scene and found that it isn't all that it's hyped up
to be. Often, the people involved (men and women) don't measure up
to their profiles or pictures. Because we have a select group of
friends, we tend to see the same people at all the functions,
B-B-Q’s, parties and other events. Same faces with the same stories
that become all too familiar. So where do you meet compatible and
available singles?
Before I go any further, let me preface this by stating something I
am certain everyone has heard. Before you can find the “right
person,” you must be the “right person.” Sound familiar? You can be
given all the information you need to find someone, but if you are
the same person with the same values and belief’s about yourself you
have always held, you will attract the same. The law of attraction
is: Similar kinds attract similar kinds. So first you must get your
own life together and stop putting out the “I’m desperate to be in a
relationship, and if I just found one, I would calm down and be
happy.” You need to calm down and be happy before you meet the right
person or you will end up in the same cycle you have always been,
“with the wrong person.”
Enough of that…lets move onto the dating room. The dating room is a
place I define where someone can go in order to meet other singles
with similar interests. A good way to begin to find your dating room
is to think about things that interest you (maybe you have always
wanted to try skiing) or hobbies you already have. Once you do this,
you can find a club that caters to people of that specific interest.
All across America there are car clubs, sports clubs, dance clubs,
checkers clubs, chess clubs, waterskiing clubs, snow clubs, dog
clubs, you name it.
Once you have a few ideas written down, you can begin to gather the
necessary information about the clubs or events that occur in your
city or region. Look in your local newspaper for a variety of
interesting options, including neighborhood picnics, fireman
breakfasts, charity singles auctions (where dates with local men and
women are auctioned off for charity), travel tours, public dances
(ones not held in a bar or a pub, such as a beginner's square
dance), charity events or even a beginners salsa dance night. For
dances, make sure that it's not a "partner necessary" event by
calling ahead.
Other search options are to type in your Internet Browser:
www.citysearch.com to find out the
local happenings in your area. Another effective way to meet someone
would be to volunteer for a charity, such as the Special Olympics,
Make-A-Wish Foundation, United Way or UNICEF, to name a few. It's
important to participate with sincerity, but you may also meet your
soul mate there. You may find someone who will most likely have the
same philanthropic views that you do.
Finally, while I don't know anyone who has participated in the
Singles International Club, I have heard of it. Check out your local
chapter (search the Internet for specifics) as they hold dances and
picnics for singles to meet. They also have the Singles Travel
International Club. This is just a short list of good meeting places
to get the ball rolling. However, no matter which place you choose
to go, remember that in all of your approaches its best not to try
to be "suave" or "debonair." Be yourself. Smile so that your eyes
shine and be genuine. You will go much further if you behave in a
kind manner than if you put on an act.
The point is to think outside the box. Here are a few more ideas for
you to grab onto: Go to a super market at a specified time (I
explain this technique in my book, Winning Points with the Woman in
Your Life One Touchdown at a Time, but it’s too lengthy to go over
here), go to your local coffee shop, search your local newspaper for
social events such as holiday hay rides, pancake breakfasts, library
socials, etc.
A little side note for those of you who are bitterly shy: In a
football game, "freezing" occurs when a player holds the ball for a
long period of time without attempting to score points. You can't
"freeze" if you want to participate in the game of love. You MUST
forgo shyness. You will never make it onto the playing field until
you do. There is nothing anyone can say or do, no magic potions or
pills and no amount of coaching that will do this for you. Practice
in the mirror or on a friend to help you overcome it. Join a theater
group and get on stage. That will throw you into the spotlight and
may help you overcome your fears.
Many of you are reading this article because you have had the same
results in your dating experiences over and over again. How can you
change that pattern? It’s a very easy solution, but one that takes a
lot of work when you have a pattern you have engrained in your
subconscious mind and that is: If you want the same results, do the
same things you have always done. If you want different results, you
must do something different!
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Jaci Rae author of:
Winning Points with the Woman in Your Life One Touchdown at a Time
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