What is Soul Gazing and how can it help to
rescue your relationship? Is it possible to stay in love with your mate and
still get that warm fuzzy feeling? The answer is yes! While many cast
envious gazes at “beautiful people” and what is perceived to be success in
love and work, nothing is ideal or trouble-free.
If it’s worth having, its value is worth the effort and must be worked
towards. “Having more money” (it makes it easier to buy things, but doesn’t
bring love.); Purchasing “a bigger dwelling” (unless you are affluent and
can hire a domestic engineer, a bigger dwelling will only keep you from your
loved one while you are cleaning.); and thoughts like, “If only I were
better looking.” (Attractiveness is in the eyes of the beholder. I have
noted “less than perfect” people with “eye-catching” mates.” It really is
how you feel about yourself inside that will reflect outside.) All of these
unessential externals are fun, but don’t bring contentment or joy in a
relationship and none of them will bring you closer to the one you love or
gain true love and respect at all.
Numerous wealthy couples that have the world at their beck and call still
have horrible marriages and the most hideous divorces. Isn’t that a great
case in point and lesson to all of us “not so fortunate” people who aren’t
blessed with their lives and the kind of money they posses; that money
doesn’t make a relationship happy?
No matter you want in this world, don’t you put the effort and time into it
to achieve your goal? Why is it then that so many couples throw in the towel
without putting any elbow grease into it? Perhaps because many have bought
into the Hollywood movie version. But if you want your relationships to
work, you must put in the effort and resolve so your relationship can
The most astounding and happy couples have many things in common. A great
sense of humor and hilarity about life not to mention a lot of tough work.
These factors are always a common thread for every thriving and joyful
relationship I have encountered. What the people in these relationships
always say is: ‘Work hard; don’t lay your head on the pillow angry, and
resolve hurtful situations right away.’ Fundamentally however, they laugh
with each other every day and laugh often.
If you feel like your relationship has lost its spark, there is a technique
that can help you get the twinkle back in your love life. What is it? I call
it Soul Gazing and it’s an uncomplicated method of gazing into your
partner’s eyes. 15 minutes is the time you are shooting for, but to start
out, I suggest 2-3 minutes.
No talking is involved and you must look into each other eyes without
turning away. Soul Gazing has strengthened couples who were very happy in
their relationship and has helped save ones that were about to collapse.
If you want the love you deserve the last piece of advice I can give is to
really understand that Love is a gift and it’s not a right. It’s is a
decision, not a feeling. If you make the choice to make your relationship
work it will stand the test of time and you can have the enduring and deep
love you deserve.
Jaci Rae author of:
Winning Points with the Woman in Your Life One Touchdown at a Time