In order to Win MVP,
you must learn to be confident. Learn to be comfortable in your own
skin without being cocky or arrogant. Learn to communicate in deeper
ways with your partner. If you already have deep relationships with
other friends, use the same principals to obtain that same kind of
intimacy with your loved one.
If you don't have deep relationships with other people in your life,
learn how to do so. Take a communication class and read books on the
subject, occasionally practicing in the mirror to feel more
comfortable with communication. I know this may sound a little silly
to you, but trust me, I have had many of my male and female friends
use this technique to build their confidence.
Put little notes to yourself on your fridge, on your mirrors, in
your car, on your computer, etc., that has positive affirmations
about yourself. Even if you don't believe the statements yet, you
will come to do so over time if you say them every time you pass by
them. Use statements like: "I am a great communicator;" "I can
succeed at learning to build a deeper relationship;" or "I am a
valuable person on the playing field of love."
Learn to kiss the man or woman in your life so it will knock his /
her socks off, but don't move to the next level. Learn to enjoy
kissing for hours, just as you did before you became physically
intimate. It will deepen your relationship.
Learn what your partner’s secret dreams and desires are by asking
and listening carefully. Then try to help him / her achieve some of
those dreams and desires. Make a habit of complimenting your partner
at least once a day. If you have the chance to see your partner or
talk to them, you can use that time to compliment them and do it
often. Be consistent and reliable in what you say and do. This will
go a long way toward building trust with your partner, something he
/ she may never have experienced with other men or women.
Learn to enjoy your partner for who he / she is. You don't want your
partner to change you, so you shouldn't expect that your partner
would be okay with you trying to change him / her. Accept your
partner for whom and what he / she is. Be a gracious, opening doors
for your partner (if you are a woman you can do this too) and
pulling out chairs. Take an interest in who your partner is and
where he / she came from, including making friends with his / her
If you follow these few basic steps, you will be the most valuable
player on your partner team and ahead of the game! Treat your
partner with the same respect and honor that you would like to be
treated with. Think of your partner as you would yourself and you
will make it to the end zone consistently!
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