If
you've been out of the dating loop for a while, coming back can be a
bit intimidating. But don't forget that dating is meant to be fun,
and just like riding a bike, with a bit of practice you'll soon be
back at it and popping proverbial wheelies. Our top tips will help
ease you off the sofa and into the dating fast lane in no time.
Cut the Cord
While it's admirable and very civilized
to remain friends with your ex, an old lover lurking in the
background sends out the wrong signals to your prospective new
dates. If you're going to get your dating mojo back, you need to be
ruthless with old, going-nowhere relationships that linger. This
means no walking the dog with your ex on Saturday morning, and no
reality TV post-mortem phone calls mid-week either. Instead of
falling back into old routines with old flames, cut the cord and
step out as a hot new single ready for action.
You're Not Alone
One look around Lavalife's three
sizzling and highly populated communities (Dating, Relationship and
Intimate) will tell you that you're not alone. Look at your dating
experiences as a new, exciting adventure in your life and enjoy
yourself. You're free to see whoever you choose, when and where you
like, so cherish your freedom and bask in the thrill of meeting new
people.
Look Your Best
Sprucing up your appearance is a great
confidence booster for those re-entering the dynamic world of
dating. And while a new look can add oodles of self-assurance to a
person, it pays to be wary of opting for an extreme overhaul. Dating
confidence is all about being comfortable in your own skin. A new
outfit, a new hairstyle, or even a new fragrance is all you need to
shout to the world, "I'm hot and ready to date again."
Feel Your Best
Start a wild new hobby that you can
throw yourself into -- it could be kickboxing, rock-climbing,
fitness boot camp -- whatever. Feeling your best means a boost to
your energy levels, increased fitness and improved self-confidence,
all of which go a long way towards getting your groove back.
Rate Yourself
Write a list of 10 things that you
really like about yourself -- from your appearance ( I have shiny,
healthy hair ) to your skills ( I can burp the whole alphabet ) and
your interests ( I am fascinated by ancient Egypt) . A little
light-hearted soul searching is the perfect way to help get a clear
perspective on yourself and what you offer prospective dates. This
process can also help highlight areas of your life that you'd like
to work on improving.
Write a Killer Profile
Repeat after me: I'm a lean, mean dating
machine . Now, it's time to roll out the big guns and announce
yourself to the dating world as a hot date waiting to happen. Give
your dating profile a bit of a polish, adding a snappy,
attention-grabbing opening line. Then update your Lavalife In My Own
Words description to include some key points from your top 10 list,
above. Add a new photo (or five) to your profile and you'll be ready
for anything.
Date, Date, Date
The best way to tackle dating jitters is
by immersing yourself in the Lavalife Dating (or Relationship or
Intimate) community and really going for it. With your new profile
and photo, you'll be positively dripping with date-ability, so get
out there and flirt like there's no tomorrow. Now's the time to play
the field, throw your Perfect Date list out the window and gorge
yourself at the singles smorgasbord.
