What's so hard about
being single? You simply go out, meet the person of your dreams, and get
married. Right? What can be so hard about that? Well, just ask someone who is
In this day and age it has become harder and harder to meet your special
someone. People are so busy with their work life and other obligations that it
makes it almost impossible to put you in the position to meet that special
Well, join the 100 million other singles in the US that are in the same boat.
Sure you can go out to bars and try to meet someone. That is very difficult
and you have no idea who you are meeting. Are they really who they say they
are? Are they really how old they say they are? Is their history and
background what they say it is? Are they married? These are the questions that
go through a lot of people's mind when they are meeting a new person. We all
have heard of the horror stories that have come from bar dating.
So what is a person to do? Below is a list of ways to meet people in the new
At Work. The office can be a great place to meet
people. You already have at least one thing in common with everybody there.
Plus you know what they look like. You know something about them. And it's
free. But there are problems. Because of today's heightened consciousness
about political correctness and sexual harassment, asking someone you work
with for a date is tricky, especially if one of you is the boss. And what if
you get into a relationship and it doesn't work out? Unless one of you quits,
you've got to face the person every day when you go to work.
Join a Group. For some people, a club, a religious group, a political
campaign, an adult education course, or a health club can be an excellent way
to meet somebody. If you are truly interested in and committed to the goals
and activities of the group, go ahead and try it. Remember, though, that most
of the people you find there will be there for the activities, not to meet
somebody. Don't join a chorus unless you like to sing.
Friends and Family. Married people want their friends to get married. Families
want to extend themselves by getting their family members married. So they
introduce you to someone they know that would be "perfect" for you. It seldom
works out. Why? Because they do the choosing, not you. And unfortunately, as
time goes on, they run out of people to introduce you to.
Singles Bars. Bars are great for some people; for others they are unpleasant
if not frightening. The people you meet there are mostly drinkers and smokers
in their twenties and early thirties. If you're looking for someone who
doesn't fit that description, you're probably out of luck.
Men often don't like bars because they have
difficulty approaching and starting a conversation with a woman or asking
her to dance. Sometimes their fear of rejection makes them awkward and
self-conscious. Women often don't like bars because they don't like being
hit on by awkward and self-conscious men. Bars are smoky, poorly lit,
noisy, and expensive ($50 to $100 a visit, including parking, cover
charge, appetizers, drinks, taxes, and tips), they also can be dangerous.
Bars are open to anyone of legal drinking age; there is no screening
On-Line Chat Rooms. Online chat is great as long as it stays online. For
many people who participate, a big part of the appeal of online chat is
that you can be whoever you want to be. So chatters routinely
misrepresent their age, marital status, and history and even their
gender. Don't ever give your real name, phone number, or e-mail address
to anyone in a chat room.
Personal Ads. If you meet someone in a bar you at least get a look at
him or her. When you read a personal ad you have no way of knowing if
anything in it is true. People who run personals or answer them can and
do lie about their looks, their age, their marital status, and
everything else. To run a personal ad of your own regularly can cost
$300 to $1,000 a year.
1 (900) Date Lines. To register with a 1 (900) line dating service, you
enter your profile by answering prerecorded questions using the
telephone keypad and then recording a message for others to listen to.
In other words, you run a personal ad (with all the disadvantages of a
personal ad) that gets delivered over the telephone. Only these personal
ads are much more expensive to read than the printed kind. A typical
profile runs about two to three minutes. At $2.49 per minute, which are
what 1 (900) lines charge on the average, to listen to one profile cost
about $5.00. To listen to five costs $20.00 or more.
On-Line Dating Services. Online dating services put your personal ad on
the World Wide Web. Some include pictures; some don't. Many services let
you enter your profile for free but, like 1 (900) lines, charge you to
look at other people's profiles or select and respond to other members.
Again, people are open to lying about themselves. There are people who
lie about their age, marital status, occupation and intentions.
Video Dating Services. When you register with a video dating service,
they put you in front of a video camera and interview you. Then other
people watch your video and decide whether they want to meet you or not.
It's great if you look good on TV. Most people don't. The process is
time-consuming and inconvenient. You have to go to the service's
location during the hours when they're open and look through a lot of
videos before you find someone you want to meet. It's expensive, too:
$1,500 to $2,500 is typical for a year's subscription.
Matchmaking Services. Now we're talking serious money. You go to their
office. They interview you, making a big show of asking detailed
questions about who you are and what you're looking for. Because the
price is high--$1,500 for six dates is typical--they only have a limited
number of people in their files at any one time. So they match you up
with whomever they've got that's close to you in age, send you off on
some blind dates, and hope for the best.
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