Do a Google search for “dates from hell”, and you just might crash
their servers. There are tons of websites devoted to subject. One
described a guy who talked about his ex-girlfriend all night, then
drove by his ex’s house a few times because he was “concerned for her
welfare”. Another told the story of a girl who made another date for
later that evening, over her cell phone, during dinner. I’m sure you
have a few war stories of your own. You know what I think?
There are no bad dates.
“No bad dates??” you’d tell me. “You’ve obviously never spent an
evening with Mr/Ms. X who thought the silverware was speaking to
them…in Klingon”. Maybe not, but so long as you were not in any danger
or got hurt in any way, it wasn’t that bad. It probably only lasted a
few hours, and you must have found some humor in that person across
the table, waiting for the mothership. Cross Captain Kirk off of your
list and chalk it up to a learning experience.
The important thing is to not get discouraged and give up on dating
completely. Stick with it, and keep looking to make that connection.
Here are three quick tips:
Release yourself from expectation.
Never “expect” your date to be “the one”, no matter how cute or nice
they are initially. You set the date up to be a disaster by your
unrealistic expectations. It creates undue pressure and leads you on a
scavenger hunt for faults in the other person. Relax, enjoy the
process, and don’t focus on an “end result” that you have invented for
It's all about attitude! Your mindset is what determines the quality
of any experience. If you approach your date with a good attitude,
there are no bad dates. Each experience is a step towards finding the
person that is right for you.
Go out on as many dates as possible.
The way to that right person is through a lot of not-the-right
persons. The more dates you have, the more opportunities you make for
yourself. Mr. or Ms. Right will not come knocking on your door while
you are watching TV. Date, date and then date some more, the process
is the answer.
Meet many people that might be possible dates.
A positive dating attitude gives you endless opportunities to meet the
Don’t rule out any method or avenue, and try them all: speed date,
people at the gym, through friends, or online - even Aunt Millie’s set
up. Do it all!
The Internet is fast becoming one of the best and most accepted ways
to meet people. They call it online dating, but it should really be
called online meeting, since you don’t actually date until you
physically get together. It is, however, a melting pot of interesting
people and opportunities. There are ways to meet people online safely
and with great success!
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