Carlos Xuma of
Dating Dynamics author of 'The
Dating Black Book'.
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Do you know about the RULES for men? Do you
want to know how to counter her tests and games?
Do you know where to touch women to give them the chills and turn them
on to you? Do you know when to touch them? Do you know how to interpret
a woman's questions and interests, and turn them in your favor?
Do you want to stop shooting in the dark with your dating and finally
get some understanding of women? Some real tangible results?
It's tempting to wing it. It really is. Some guys think that they'll
"Figure women out" when they get to a certain point, except that point
never comes. Different women seem to want different things. (Or maybe
they're the same things?) It's too damn confusing.
It doesn't have to be anymore.
THE DATING BLACK BOOK breaks this strategy down in its entirety, from
preparing to meeting to passing their tests. It's the most complete
strategy out there. I'll even tell you how to interpret their behavior
and figure out which kind of woman you're dealing with - and most
importantly, how to avoid the bad ones.
In my advice column and working with men on their
dating techniques, the most important area I see for men is maintaining a good
attitude, and a CORRECT attitude. It's one thing to not be bitter when you
face rejection and your fears with women, but it's another to make sure that
you're keeping up your posture.
In short, your posture is your overall status level with a woman. Your posture
can range from total supplicating wimp on the left end of the scale, and
hardcore self-interested jerk on the far right. You are shooting for something
a bit over to the right of center when you first start dating a gal, and you
ease off until you are at a good equilibrium somewhere near the middle.
One of the most effective tactics for letting a woman know that you are
self-confident is by showing her that you are not the kind of guy who takes
whatever is handed to him. You have standards, and she has to live up to them.
The tactic I'm about to teach you is exceptionally effective, as it
communicates your posture right away. (This technique is also an excellent
variation of the "neg-hit" or negative hit technique where you let a woman
know she isn't getting any breaks for being attractive.)
The Point System goes a little like this:
John is at a bar with Mary, who he just started
talking to. He's been talking to her for a few minutes, and there seems to be
a good vibe. Here's their interaction:
John: "So, I've always thought of snowboarding as more free-form than skiing.
You can do quite a bit more freestyle activity. Of course a lot of skiers tend
to complain about snowboarders."
Mary: "Sure. I've been skiing all my life, and I've never really had any
problem with 'boarders. They're like the hippies of the slopes."
John: (Nodding.) "Hmm. That's a good analysis. You just scored a few points
with me. I might be seen skiing with you." (smile)
Or,
John: "Let's see, the best movie I've seen lately was 'Daredevil.' I
think Ben Affleck handled the role very well.
Mary: "Oh, I saw that last weekend, too. I liked it a lot, too."
John: (Looking impressed) "Wow! I'm impressed. You scored some points
there. A woman who appreciates a good super hero movie."
Now, you see what is happening here: John made it clear that he is not
out to win Mary's approval. She has to win HIS. By telling her that she
scored some points with him, he's also telling her that he wasn't so
sure about her. She has to WORK to gain some credibility with him. John
comes across as more valuable since he is not a free commodity. He's
sending a subtle communication to her that he is not like other guys.
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