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Suffering From
Resolution Failure?
Advice from a life coach on sticking to your New Year’s goals.
By Devlyn Steele
It’s only a few weeks into
the New Year and all those goals and resolutions you wanted for yourself are
already slipping away. One of two things is happening: Either you simply
never got started, or you’re running out of steam.
Not getting started is common. Even with all the great enthusiasm and
excitement we had about the year, the diversion of the holidays and then
just trying to get back into our normal routines didn’t allow us to
incorporate our new goals into our old schedules. The goals we initially set
now seem too difficult to know where to start. Simply put, we are busy and
distracted by the overall tasks of our lives. Don’t worry. There is always
“tomorrow” or next year.
The other common element to resolution failure is burn out. It is comically
predictable, but have you ever noticed the level of activity the first week
of January? Go to any gym and you will see it packed. In fact, January 1st
and 2nd are two of the busiest days in gym attendance. Weight loss groups,
dating sites, financial planners, career advisors, and support groups all
report high activity the first week of January.
Everyone wants to get in shape, lose weight, meet someone, get a better job,
save money, quit smoking, quit drinking and more. So we start out the year
no holds barred and go for it! Unfortunately the results we want don’t come
as fast as our initial enthusiasm and when we don’t see quick changes we
lose our motivation. As the weeks go by the crowds disappear and soon
everything is back to normal activity levels as we all slip back into our
routines. Then we stay there until another failed attempt next January. The
result is that 2006 will be yet another year you failed to achieve the
changes you wanted.
The New Year motivates us to start, but we need to develop a habit of
successful behavior. As Jim Ryan put it, “Motivation is what gets us
started. Habit is what keeps us going.” |
Devlyn Steele ("America's
Leading Life-Coach")
ToolsToLife.com
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You can develop success
habits and remedy lack of or diminished motivation with a life coach
technique called “ABC.”
A = Action. Start taking action today. We don’t achieve change through
thinking about it, but by doing something.
B = Bite size. Reduce all your new activities to small daily actions. It
truly is amazing how doing something small doesn’t overwhelm us and
produces amazing results. When we take on too much we either don’t start
or can’t keep it up. Work out 10 minutes a day; send out one resume a
day, save a little money every day and the results will materialize over
time.
C = Consistency. Through the accumulation of small actions, we get big
results. Do your bite size action activities daily!
We all want big changes, but literally think about the change in your
pocket. We have all taken our daily change and placed it in a container
of some sort. Before long, that pile of nickels and dimes had grown to
several dollars. If you want to produce real changes, concentrate on the
ABC Success Habits. Get into action today with small bite size
activities consistently and before you know it, you’ll be going to the
bank at the end of 2006 with a sizable deposit of results.
About The Author: Devlyn Steele ("America's Leading Life-Coach") has
been a public consultant and a private counselor for over 15 years. A
Cognitive Therapist, Radio host and Columnist, Devlyn also developed
ToolsToLife.com.
Devlyn maintains a thriving practice in Hollywood, where he counsels
famous actors, musicians and captains of industry.
This work is copyrighted by the author. No
unauthorized duplication or presentation allowed. Copyright © 2006 Devlyn Steele All Rights Reserved Reprinted With Permission
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