By Swinggcat- author of Real World Seduction online
He went on to tell me that a viable solution
is to meet women in coffee shops and bookstores. This is great if you
live in a place where bookstores are the happening place for attractive
women to hang out. This, however, was not so for me. If I wanted to meet
three or four attractive women, I would have to spend hours waiting. I
suspect that I was not alone - I bet many other places in the world are
similar. At night, however, I occasionally would join my friends at bars
and nightclubs. These places were filled to the gills with attractive
women. I would, unfortunately, remember my mentor's far from sage
caveat: “It is next to impossible to attract women in bars.” And then
sit there like a Waldo watching my very average looking friends ATTRACT
these beautiful women. I know now that I was limiting my possibilities
of meeting desirable women. The higher number of attractive women at a
venue, the more possibilities you will have for attracting women you
desire. It's not that bars and nightclubs are always the best places to
meet women - there are exceptions. But to rule out environments full of
attractive women - such, bars and clubs - because of your own
insecurities is to limit your own possibilities of ATTRACTING desirable
women. Oh, by the way, many of the women who go to bars and nightclubs
are neither gold diggers nor party girls nor drug addicts. Surprisingly
many are sophisticated, intelligent women.
Notice with both mindset categories, a person projects an external barrier into the world that often times is nothing more than a figment of his imagination. These barriers are like a dark depressing cloud looming over him.
So this begs the question: What is the proper mindset to have?
The proper mindset is about:
1) Purging your self of worries both about your own shortcomings and possible barriers in the external environment.
2) Focusing on creating the emotion in her body of wanting and reaching for more of you (In my book, Real World Seduction, I calling this “Prizing”).
3) Focusing on controlling the META-FRAME: the underlying meaning of the interaction.
As I have said in the past: ATTRACTION is not how a woman judges you, it is what you do to her mind and body. The “body” part is creating emotion inside her of wanting and reaching for more of you; while the “mind” part is you controlling the underlying meaning of the interaction.
When your mindset (or concern) is nothing more than both getting women so emotionally charged they are wanting and reaching for you, and defining the META-FRAME as you being the one who is the PRIZE in the interaction, you will be well on your way to being a rock star with women.
On more than one occasion I have seen a guy doing fantastic with a woman - he was getting her so emotionally charged she was chasing him and he was defining the META-FRAME as him being the PRIZE in the interaction. But then something happened, such as, another guy came up and started talking to the woman he was attracting so well. Instead of keeping his composure, he stood their nervously, buckling completely. The women intuitively picked up on his fear and the attraction was lost - she no longer felt COMPELLED to CHASE him, and no longer saw him as the PRIZE. Her whole experience with this poor guy had now been recontextualized. Even though this woman was feeling attraction for this guy - I know she was because I saw it with my own eyes - she would soon rationalize to herself, for example, that she was never attracted to him in the first place. If he had tried to reinitiate conversation in a Waldo-esque way, she might have responded with something like: “You are a loser; I would never sleep with you in a million years.” But this would only be her rationalizing in retrospect. Had he triggered the right emotions in her again and taken back control of the META-FRAME, she might have slept with him. And afterwards, rationalized how wonderful he was.
In my book I spell out in great detail the process for creating attraction between you and another woman. There are many other systems out there that claim to teach this. But what they suggest comes across so socially awkward it is kind of like trying to squeeze a square peg into a round hole. Not the case with what you will learn from me. What I teach is comes from watching people who have exquisite social skills. So, you won't be doing anything that comes across as socially weird or awkward. I'll teach you how to develop your own personality in a way that will not only make you more attractive to women; it will make you more likable with each and every person you come into contact with. Take a giant step towards the life you deserve by checking out my book today:
A friend of mine suggested that I include a couple of the questions and comments I get from people in my newsletters. So, I am taking his advice and will be including two to three of these emails in my newsletters.
I thought id give you an email here and let you know what i thought of the ebook so far.
I have to say its the most impressive book i have ever read. after four years of working with only **** **** (I took out the name because I don't believe in bashing my competitors. But the guy he mentioned is a fairly well known seduction guru) i picked up a lot of things but wasn't successful with it like he said everyone would be. I thought it was interesting that everything i didn't know for four years, everything that he didn't tell, or would show or explain or whatever was answered in your book.
**** is decent, ***** **** is better than him, but your book is leagues beyond any of their work. I was particularly impressed with the chapters on frames. in two years of trying to understand frames and how to use them, what they meant in various ways, i never got most of the picture (through the ** ** videos or michael halls books,)
Your chapter on frames fixed two years of confusion. period. damn it .. how dare you do that to me!!! Your one sentence on if she is in your frame or you are in hers is the most striking profound sentence I've had the pleasure to read. The chapters on designing the meta-frame to operate out of and the frames that imply the meta-frame are sheer brilliance and are worth many many times more then the book itself.
I should know that because before i bought the book, i had 125 dollars to spend on the direction i wanted to explore. one option was to spend it on one of ****'s students who do seduction consulting (i wont name anyone in particular) or to buy the book. I can honestly say if the book had been the same price as the consulting and i knew what i know now, I wouldn't have spent five seconds deciding to buy it immediately.
Thanks for doing what most could not or would not or chose not to because of their own greed. Thank you.
- O from Minnesota
I have to say, comments like this make me feel that all my time and effort is worthwhile - thank you!
The money from the book has not made me rich but it has given me the time to go out and research, furthering the development of this realm of psychology and sociology.
If you liked my book, some of the stuff I am currently working on will blow your mind! - I'm talking a real paradigm shift.
It's funny because some people are anti spending money on commercial products of this genre. They feel like their money is being taken from them. And I think this is a viable concern: There are some charlatans out there looking to steal people's money. But, at the same time, there are also guys out there who are the real deal. If these guys don't get paid their research significantly slows down. Spending some cash isn't a bad thing. You get knowledge in return, and are giving research money to this field, which in turn furthers its development - it's a win-win deal!
Hey whats up Swinggcat, wow I gotta tell you, your book rocks!!! I went out with my cousin to have some drinks.. I entered the bar with the meta-frame set. I was laid back, having fun and not looking at the girls... then went to dance with a girl, cold read her. I took your advice from the first chapters of your book and decided I wasnt going to lean in to talk to women at bars no matter how loud music was... that was my goal of the week. they lean in to hear me! and I saw my cousin bored so I told her, "hey gotta check on my cousin, we will dance later" (hands motion on later) Then he approaches some girls and I was there dancing alone and having fun not looking at girls... and some girl that walked behind me pinched me... I noticed out of the corner of my eye some chick dancing with her arm extended... oh oh... she was inviting me to dance in front of the whole bar and grabbed her hand and she pulled me towards the dance floor... every girl is watching me by now... they get me drinks...
Then the girl I blew off earlier came and danced into me all sexy and tried to kiss me... hahaha! at the end of party the chick grabbed my hand and pulled me with her to the exit of bar... some GF of hers tries to prevent me from leaving with her. I leave bar with my cousin who is with 2 chicks and im with 2 chicks... the girl that pinched my back earlier wants to leave with us... the other girl comes and says... dont leave me lets continue this... the pinched girl says: Every girl in here wants to leave with you!...
Long story short we leave and the dancing girl is grabbing my hand and begging me to get in a cab with her and go home with her!!! wow Swinggcat you da man!!! In that bar I was sexier than James Dean, and I was wearing jeans with sneakers and an old knit. thnx Swinggcat hope to hear from you soon!
- A from Columbia
You are really starting to put into practice the info in my book - rock on! You did a lot great stuff here. “I went out with my cousin to have some drinks.. I entered the bar with the meta-frame set.” I bet just setting the meta-frame - that you are the PRIZE no matter what - made a huge difference.
“I took your advice from the first chapters of your book and decided I wasnt going to lean in to talk to women at bars no matter how loud music was... that was my goal of the week. they lean in to hear me!"
Bro, this is huge: Making women lean in to you is one of the easiest ways to control the Meta-Frame.
“I leave the bar with my cousin who is with 2 chicks and im with 2 chicks... the girl that pinched my back earlier wants to leave with us... the other girl comes and says... dont leave me lets continue this... the pinched girl says: Every girl in here wants to leave with you!...”
Dude, this is great. I think many guys are coming from a place of not even being able to fathom the possibility of what I suspect is becoming your everyday reality.
I find that the better I get at using the meta-frame, the more powerful my reality becomes. It seems to get easier and easier to suck girls into my reality. Do you find this too? Anyway, this is all in my book, and if you are ready to take a giant step towards massive success with women, come check it out:
'Till next time,
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