you are in a relationship right now, or are thinking of going into
one, there are 3 very important tips you should know and questions
you should ask yourself before you ever get yourself into a
relationship. This could save you from a lot of heartache and pain
when you are involved in a love relationship.
(1) Your lover does not owe you your happiness, peace or joy.
Happiness is a state of mind we choose to have. All of your
happiness, and all of your suffering, are created by you and they do
not come from outside of you, or from others. Before you go into any
type of relationship, ask yourself these questions: "Do I really,
really, really know how to walk away from disappointment and fear?
Will I be able to find the person that I am now even after I go into
this relationship and begin a new way of life?" In short, you should
not be dependent on your partner on your emotional needs. You
yourself are responsible for your own feelings and creating positive
experiences for both your partner and you whenever you are together.
(2) Love your partner for who they are.
No one in this world is perfect. One day you will find your partner
doing certain things or saying certain things that will hurt you,
disappoint you or anger you. Before you go into any type of
relationship, you have to ask yourself:
"Will I be able to love my partner for who they are. If I am unhappy
or angry with something they have said or done, will I be able to
recognize my unhappiness or anger as against their speech, actions
and behavior, and not against their persons?"
(3) Will I be able to love myself as much as I love my partner?
If you cannot love yourself, how are you going to give love to
another? This is a mistake most people make when they go into a
relationship. They become over-obsessive with what they can give to
their partners and what they can do for their partners. To ensure a
fulfilling relationship, you have to learn to take care of your own
needs as well. A true partner or lover is one who will make sure
that you do not become too dependent on them. You are responsible
for your own feelings and your own emotional needs too. You are a
beautiful being. So, take care of yourself, love yourself, treat
yourself to all the good things in life too, and do the same to your
partner. Very soon you will find true love always coming your way
without any effort on your part!
As always, if you are encountering problems in your relationship,
try to dissolve all of your problems in love. And you'll be sure you
are on your way to a peaceful and fulfilling relationship!
Article by Cucan Pemo ( Author of 'Retrieve A Lover' )
Bring Back the Love of
Your Life! Save your Relationship. Save your Marriage. No matter what
type of relationship you are involved in, no matter how difficult or
hopeless your situation appears.
FREE details ==>
This work is copyrighted by the author. No unauthorized duplication or presentation allowed. Copyright © 2006 Cucan Pemo, All Rights Reserved Reprinted With Permission
To submit your
own article, please email it as a text attachment to: alovelinksplus.com
We do not compensate authors for being published at aLoveLinksPlus.com but we
will provide a link back to your website and you will maintain the copyright
to your submitted article. Email us for further details. Not all submissions
will be published.