There is a special phenomenon when a guy starts to learn about women
for the first time. I call it "the grand search for the holy grail."
I have seen many guys who were unsuccessful with women for years of
their lives. Then one day, they type "seduction" into Google and
find a bunch of web pages and e-books dealing with "how to seduce
girls" "what women want" "the best pick-up lines" etc. Suddenly they
get all excited and start looking for the "holy grail", the key that
opens the heart (and the legs) of every woman.
As a few days pass by, they quickly realize that things don't work
that way. Most of these guys will try out one thing or two, then
quit their quest for the pussy before they had even started.
I have a question for these guys: after many years without ANY
success with women, how do you expect everything to change in a day
or two? It just won't happen. If you worked continuously day after
day, month after month, year after year on fucking up your life, how
could you change these bad habits in a second? No one can, actually!
Something similar to the above is someone looking for a line,
routine, or technique that they can use on EVERY WOMEN. Come on
guys, ladies are not light switches, you can't use the same movement
of your finger to bed each and every girl! (Ahmmm, well, you can,
but she has to be lying down on your bed already :P) Each and every
girl is different, and as such, they are turned on by different men,
different behavior and different personalities.
There are many authors teaching seduction in their books and many
guys keeping various "how to get women" type workshops. You have to
realize that none of these people are GODS or IDOLS, but average
guys who do something that works FOR THEM. What I do might not work
for you so well. It's because I have a different personality, a
different view of the world and different goals in life.
When I teach seduction, I ask my guys just one question: what do you
want from this whole thing? What kind of girls are you after? What
are your goals and what are you willing to put into this? Before you
read any books, take any workshops or do even one small step, you
should answer that question. Why? Because you don't attract girls
with your looks, your money, or your age but rather WITH YOUR
PERSONALITY AND ATTITUDE.
I'm sure you have seen many guys who were poor and ugly as hell with
the hottest women. Were those women with them because of their looks
or money? Not likely. She was with him because of HIS PERSONALITY.
Because he triggered certain emotions inside her with his behavior.
Just think a bit: will an abstract mathematician attract a hot disco
girl? No? Why not? Because they are living a DIFFERENT LIFESTYLE.
The first one spends his days with his numbers, while the girl would
rather peacock in front of the mirror all day. They have different
needs and different goals, which just don't go well together.
Girls go through certain periods in their lives. A 20-year-old girl
will have different goals and needs than a 30-year-old woman. Many
young girls are thrilled by adventure, adrenaline, and a sudden rush
of emotions. "Bad guys", "adventurers", "extreme sportsmen" usually
move the fantasy of these kind of girls. Such guys LIVE A LIFESTYLE
that attracts these women. They want to become a part of his life.
And then comes the abstract mathematician or computer programmer who
has taken a seduction workshop. He goes up to our 20-year-old hot
babe, and blurts out a memorized line or routine. "Hey girls, get
this. Last time we were parachuting with my friend... etc.etc." She
might even laugh. Our fellow guy takes this as a "sign of her
interest" and goes on with another made-up story of his. Will he get
the girl? Not likely. Will the "bad guy" in the leather jacket on
his motorbike do so? Of course!