Mistakes Men Make With Women
There are lots of reasons why guys can't get a date. It usually boils down a few things that can be changed. But before I reveal what those things are you'll want to stop and think about the guys that you admire, you know, the guys you see with the pretty girls, the guys that can get the dates with the women that you can't. The guys that have the confidence to walk up to women, ask for their phone numbers, email addresses and get dates.
You're on your computer, so, open a new text document and take a moment to create a list of all the qualities you admire in the guys that get the dates you don't. It might look something like this:
- good looking
- well dressed
- physically fit
- fun to be around
and probably plenty more things that you can think about.
Now make a list of the things that you don't like about yourself, it'll probably be different from the things I'll list, but here are some suggestions that may be going through your mind:
- out of style clothes
- bad teeth
- wear glasses
- overweight or out of shape
- afraid of women
- not funny
Of course, this list could go on and on since you know what you don't like about yourself better than what you do like about yourself. And we're not going to create that list. Whatever you like about yourself is probably a few of the reasons why you can't get a date.
Now that you've taken some time to think about yourself, let's move on to changing what we can change. You'll be surprised that once you identify the things that you can change how easy it is to set up a plan of action and begin making the changes that will help you get dates.
The first four items on my list above (out of style clothes, bad teeth, wearing glasses, overweight or out of shape) can be changed once they are identified. They can also be great motivators, once identified, to make changes that will build your confidence around women as you change them. Clothes shopping, even if you are only window shopping, is a great way to talk to the girls that work in the men's clothing stores. Getting your teeth fixed starts with some basic dental hygiene and moving on to regular dental visits. Don't be afraid of the dentist, if you shop around you'll find a dentist that cares about your comfort and will be understanding about your financial status as well. I have yet to meet a dentist that is unwilling to set up a payment plan if you don't have dental insurance. All you have to do is ask. It's the same with opticians. If you wear glasses, you can easily switch to comfortable contacts if you feel your glasses are a detriment to you getting dates. Sometimes all you need is a new set of frames, so again, shop around, ask the sales girls what they like and get it done.
Keep in mind that nothing gets done in a day. But if you plan to make changes and follow that plan, you will be successful in more than just dating.
Being overweight or out of physical shape is a sign of our times. Changes in diet and exercise are a fact of life in these trying times of fast food and faster lifestyles. This is a one day at a time category. Start with short walks that get a little longer on a weekly basis. Visit your doctor for suggestions on what you should do and how you should do it. Not everyone can afford to join a gym or have a personal trainer. If these options are available to you great. If not, plan a physical exercise schedule for yourself from books, newspaper articles, and, of course, by what you can find online. The internet has a wealth of fitness websites for you to get the helpful information and support you may need.
Being afraid of women, being shy, not having funny things to say to women are common ailments. But they are not brick walls that separate the men from the boys. Building up your confidence, in any situation, will naturally flow into all aspects of your life. Once you find things to say to women, you'll find ways to say them. You'll be able to create an atmosphere of comfort friendliness with everyone that surrounds you. This is also a one day at a time exercise.
You cannot learn to be confident in one day.
But you can learn how to handle situations differently, with confidence and humor, that will flow into meeting new friends, being better dressed and confident.
We recently discovered a great book called "Double Your Dating" by David DeAngelo. In our opinion, it's the best place for a guy to start who wants to become more successful with women and dating. We're really excited about it, because these days it's definitely not easy for a guy to find dating advice that works.
So what makes this book different than everything else out there?
Well, mainly David DeAngelo himself.
You see, David D. is a smart, educated regular guy. A regular guy who for the longest time, like so many others, couldn't figure out why he didn't have the success with women he wanted.
Several years ago, he made the decision in his life to do whatever it takes to get this whole "dating" thing down, no matter what the cost.
David read everything he could find about women and dating, and was disappointed to discover that for the most part, there was no quality information available for guys like him who wanted to learn.
Frustrated but determined, David decided to go straight to the source. Not to the women themselves… After hearing so many women say they wanted a "nice guy", then turn around and complain about their jerk boyfriends (who they had obviously chosen over many nice guys like him), he was convinced that even women themselves weren't exactly sure of what they wanted in a man.
David sought out the few guys he knew who were unbelievably successful with women. You know, the guys in high school that you never stopped hearing about. He asked around and found more and more of these naturals, and sat down and picked their brains for every last piece of information he could dig up.
He was surprised to find that many of these guys weren't rich or handsome. In fact, several of them were down right broke and ugly! But they definitely had some kind of "power" that other guys didn't, and after hanging out with these guys for a while, David started to figure out exactly what it was.
It took some time, but before long David himself was getting women like crazy. His friends begged him to let them in on his secret… And sure enough… It worked for them too! David had put together a complete system for meeting and dating women that any guy could use. They convinced him that he had to write a book, and soon "Double Your Dating" was born.
In his book, David explains his step-by-step process for meeting and attracting women. Once you know it and master it, you can attract any woman you want, any time you want. And you don't have to be rich or handsome to do it.
David has finally unraveled the "bad boy" mystery and explains exactly why some guys "get all the chicks". More importantly, he explains how to develop the traits in yourself that drive women wild, and why you don't have to be a bad boy or a jerk to be successful with women.
There are simple things that you can do to separate yourself from 99% of the other guys out there, and David spells them out for you in plain English. He covers specific strategies and techniques for starting conversations with women, getting their phone numbers and email addresses, inexpensive and cheap date ideas, and how to take things to a "physical" level smoothly and easily.
The techniques in the book are practical and easy to use. There is nothing you will have to memorize or study. You can start using what you learn right away.
We really cannot recommend this book enough. "Double Your Dating" is an absolute must read for any man, no matter where you're at in the dating game.
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