by Carol Allen 'Love is in the Stars'
Tip: Having your astrology chart read can provide you with the "train schedule" of your life, letting you know when the "love" train will enter the station...
And when - no matter what you do - you'll swear it was derailed.
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When I first got into astrology (back in junior high school when I was in love with a dreamy, lanky blond kid named Paul - he was a Leo) I thought all that mattered for a relationship to succeed was if two people were compatible.
I thought "compatible" and "meant for each other" were interchangeable terms.
Turns out I was wrong.
(And I should've known since Paul was "supposed to be" perfect for me, seeing as I'm an Aquarius, and Leo and Aquarius go together like peas and carrots. But, alas, he only had eyes for my friend Trish, despite the fact that she was a Virgo, and I was the far better zodiacal match...
Actually - all the boys of pretty much every sign were in love with Trish, but that's another story.)
When I became an astrologer and actually studied how it all works way beyond just learning the signs, I discovered it takes a lot more than having good Sun sign vibes with a guy for it to lead to "happily ever after" with him.
In fact, I quickly learned there are FIVE CRITICAL KEYS to love, and only ONE of them has to do with if you can get along or not...
One of the most important of the other four critical keys has to do with TIMING.
Believe it or not - your chart indicates WHEN you will find love, and WHEN you will not (what I call the "forty years in the desert cycle") - no matter how compatible you and a man are.
This can be confusing - big time.
It's to blame for the "right guy, wrong time" syndrome so many women suffer through.
Heck, even I suffered from this syndrome, dating my husband and losing him for four years before we got back together and eventually married...
(Did you know that a huge majority of men getting married say they COULD HAVE married someone else from their past, but that something in their life kept it from happening - a job change, a move, school, a sick parent, etc. took priority and made them unable to take the relationship "the distance?"
Maybe give someone from your past a call...)
I get a lot of questions about this. A recent letter from a reader brings up some great points. So, here it is:
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Love the newsletters! I also read your book and loved it! I have a question about the whole "season of love" phenom.
Do you believe that we are meant to be with one specific person or is it possible that there is more than one person we could live happily ever after with as long as we meet during "apple season?"
A good friend of mine had been with her boyfriend for 2 years before they broke up recently. They both met in California 2 years ago. But what if she had been living in New York? Would she have still met HIM (specifically) or someone else (with whom she would have had a 2 year relationship that eventually broke up)?
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In case you haven't read my book (thanks for the plug, Beth!), the "season of love phenom" that Beth refers to, what I also call "apple season," is the timing in your life in which it can be predicted from your astrology chart when you will marry.
Okay, Beth's question is great.
Here's the thing - her friend DID NOT end up with the guy in question.
And it could have been for a number of reasons.
(Remember - there are FIVE CRITICAL KEYS to relationships, and ALL FIVE must be fulfilled, not just the "season.")
As for her question as to whether or not I believe that we're meant to be with one specific person or not, here's the thing...
Individuals are as varied as snowflakes - no two people are exactly alike or have the same "destiny" or "karma."
One person's chart might say they'll marry young and stay married for sixty years, while another person's chart might say they won't marry until they're forty and they'll only be married for fifteen years.
And yet a third person's chart might not indicate marriage at all.
(I know of a Hindu priest who has a chart like this, for example, and she has not only never married, she's never had so much as a school girl crush on anyone in her entire life!)
As crazy as it may sound, it's all in the stars.
You can get even more specific than that - you can tell the qualities of a person's mate, as well - such as if they're older or younger, if they're likely to be foreign, or an artist, if they'll make a good living or not, if they're honest, or alcoholic, and even how you'll likely meet.
No kidding - your chart also reveals if you'll have more than one "marriage-like" relationship.
And if (gulp) you'll divorce.
In fact, in India, if you have a chart that indicates you'll divorce, it's recommended that you marry and divorce A TREE (I am not making this up!) so that you can "pay off" the divorce karma and go on to successfully marry an actual person.
(I recommend marrying a weeping willow for this - 'cause, you know - they're already weeping... :))
As for Beth's question about whether or not her friend would have met this very same guy if she was in New York and not in California, sadly, I have no idea... (though I'm guessing probably not).
(I like for you to think that I know everything, but that's kind of a "how does the Universe work?" question, and I leave those to the Big Boss...)
What I've come to understand is that some of your destiny is negotiable, and some of it is not.
The topic of "who you marry" is one of the non-negotiables, apparently.
But a temporary boyfriend? That's probably more of a flexible issue.
But yes, even those short-term relationships can be predicted, as can their demise...
(I dated a guy for a while before I got married that I knew I'd meet ahead of time - but he was too early to be "the one" as he showed up a couple of years before my "apple season." He was also kind of a jerk, so I didn't want to marry him anyway. Whenever he'd talk about getting married, I'd quickly change the subject...)
But when it's time for THE ONE and all the forces of the solar system line up at once to usher HIM in - I like to say you could be in a cave in a coma and he'd still find you.
(I tripped over my husband in a town of three hundred people in the middle of nowhere - and I was NOT looking for him! But he was older than me, an artist, and very spiritual, just like my chart had said... Best of all, there he was THREE DAYS into my "apple season" that I'd known was coming for seven years. It's all in the book... :))
I suspect Beth may be asking such things because she's worried that she may miss out on her man.
She's concerned that she's supposed to be in THE RIGHT PLACE at THE RIGHT TIME or he'll end up marrying someone else.
She thinks she has to strategize with the "Powers That Be" correctly, or her fate will pass her by.
But, in my experience, it doesn't work this way.
When it's time and your chart indicates you marry - there he is.
No matter where you are.
When it's not time, there he isn't...
Or worse - there's Mr. Wrong to torment you, or teach you something about yourself (usually what you DON'T want).
I've had many clients over the years call or email me amazed, as I was, that their guy showed up right on schedule, though they didn't believe that he would.
I've had many other clients take comfort in the fact that when it isn't their time, they don't find their guy, and it's NOT THEIR FAULT!
(I had a client just yesterday that's been in a "forty years in the desert cycle" - a LOVE BLOCKING time that in her case lasted SEVENTEEN YEARS, and it just ended.
Let me tell you - she was so relieved as that's exactly how long it's been since her last significant relationship, that she couldn't stop thanking me! :))
So, Beth - keep the faith, and keep your heart open. Your destiny will find you in divine timing.
As for those other CRITICAL KEYS to relationships - only four are astrological. The fifth is, "Do both people have good relationship skills?"
Because you can find the man for you in the right timing, with whom you share a feeling of purpose, you can be greatly compatible with one another, and you can still mess it up!
Sadly, most people do not know how to DO relationships, and fail to make the most of what fate sends their way.
Don't make that mistake. Marriage studies find that over fifty percent of divorces could have been avoided if the couple had simply learned the rules of relationships, and how to make love last.
(And if the people divorcing had just married and divorced a tree before their real wedding... :))
If you'd like to find out if you and a man have that other critical key to love, i.e., if you're in fact COMPATIBLE, then consider running a "Right Man Report" with him.
"The Right Man Report" is an astrological overview of your relationship that covers fifteen areas of connection or potential DISCONNECTION, explaining just what to do about each.
It not only reveals if you and a man can feel close and mutually supportive, but if your very relationship itself can have easy progress and movement forward, or if no matter what you do you'll just be left feeling hurt and exhausted.
Amazingly, the ancient astrological technique that makes up "The Right Man Report" reveals what you've probably found - that you can have an incredible "WOW" connection with a man but still not be able to make your relationship with him work.
Stop beating yourself up about a man you can't get over, or one you can't "make" love you.
Find out if your mutual stars support him being "The Right Man" for you or not.
To read all about it, or order yours now, simply go here.
By the way - Paul ultimately came around and took me to my high school prom.
Of course it was many years after he rejected me in eighth grade - remember, timing is everything...
Okay, not everything - but a very important thing!
May God and his planets and stars shower you with love throughout the cycles of your life!
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