If you're asking yourself where have all the good men gone I can only
answer you with this: Where have you been looking?
I am sure that every woman wants a guy to not only love
her but to make her feel loved all the
So, if you know that as your main goal, how have you been looking
to find that one special guy that will:
- always show he is in love with you
- always show you that he wants to make you happy
- always wants to devote himself to just you
You now what? 99% of all men, (OK, maybe 90% of all men) want to be able to express
these three things towards the woman they are with, if they
truly feel that they deserve the woman they are with.
Have the guys that you've dated felt they have "won you over" by
your own actions and words (and not theirs) or do you think that they have just been
lucky to be with you and that, their insecurities intact, they
always knew that sooner or later they would bore you, hamper your
career, or otherwise make it all-too-well-known that you really were
too good for them, so they'd cause an issue to give you a reason to
break up with them.
Ever dated guys like that?
These are the guys that are not only part of that 10% but they
are also the guys that are uncertain of their own masculinity and
because of their own doubts they feel that any long-term commitment
is not only not within their grasp, it is not even within their capabilities.
And so one thing or another leads to the breakup. It is
But for every 10 guys that are insecure, so relationship
un-ready, there are 90 guys out there that understand love and are
waiting to experience love in it's fullest capacities.
Dating, relationship, family, holidays... when the slot machine
pops you a winner and even when the chips are down he wants to be
there with you.
He actually would choose life with you, with it's ups and downs,
instead of a life without you.
You've seen these guys... you even know some of these guys
(they're married now, of course and have fantastic lives and wives)
and it's not unimaginable that you will find one of these guys that
fits your ideal of a man... well, maybe ideal is too strong
a word, so let's go with semi-trainable.
But all joking aside, why have you failed to find yourself a
Do you understand the three secrets to relationships as
understood by men? If not, prepare to be a witness to a great
revealing of dating truth.
1. Men don't need to chase women
Just because they sometimes doesn't mean they are always going to
chase a woman. men sometimes do like a "hard case" to help them
understand their own self-worth and masculinity but other than that
they are just as comfortable, and willing, for a woman to come to
And, when they chase a woman they are in it for the immediate
rush of a soft touch, a kiss and maybe something more... but the
chase is like a drug whose effects wear off quickly, and then there
is nothing left, no attraction, no call the next day, just nothing.
Just as every guy that waits for the woman to come to him, he is
often misunderstanding of what she wants, what she really wants, and
he misleads her my action or deed, but word said or unsaid.
And what are you to make of all this confusion and misdirection?
Well, often you only understand this as "his way" of behaving with
Sure, it's easy to make apologies for him, to tell yourself
excuse after excuse until you realize, no, this really is how he
behaves and you give him the boot.
So now you have learned that you can't let a guy chase you, and
you can't let yourself be caught chasing him... perplexing indeed,
2. Men really do have emotions
As odd a statement as this is, it needs to be a big reminder sign
you have on your fridge so that you can remember this each day.
Men have emotions, they just don't care about the same things
that women do. Really.
It's been a while since I've seen a woman, alone at a sports bar,
that actually knew the names of any one of the teams playing on the
multitude of TV screens. And the same is true if she's there with a
Guys care about their teams. When their team
loses, they lose. When their team wins, they win. A guy's mood can
swing with every pitch thrown, every football pass made or dropped
or worse yet intercepted, you get the idea.
Although women are usually tagged as the
"unstable ones" have you seen what emotions a guy goes through
during his day? Moody, glum, high spirited, you name it, all at the
opening of a bag of chips or the turning on of a new keg of beer at
his local watering hole. Ugh.
What does this tell us about men and their
emotions? Basically that men cannot handle the emotions that they
have, let alone be able to master them any time soon.
Where does this leave you?
In one of two places:
Guys are easily bowled over by their emotions and need to "take a
break" or withdraw, clam up, shut down, or worse of all, give in to
fight another day. They just don't have the tools to deal with their
emotional control and the requirements of a relationship.
How are you going to deal with these reactions
from men in times when you are emotional, and for good cause?
3. Men Want To Be With A Woman That Cares Deeply For Them
They just honestly don't know what that type of woman is, what
she looks like, how she acts, how she smells, where she hangs out,
who her friends might be, etc.
Men don't have a clue to finding a great woman.
So the toughest tightwalk a woman has to do is to date a
guy she likes that may have potential, and still be there
to drag him through relationship school so that he can actually
understand himself and his need to be with you.
Getting a guy to commit is way easier than getting him to commit
for a reason other than sexual.
Notice the difference? ... yeah, I know you did.
I could go on and on about dating bad boys, how to know if a guy
is a player, etc, but it's all been written before, I guess you just
haven't found the best source yet for this information.
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Thanks for reading and best of luck in life and love.