So before I get into the specifics, let's talk
about the underlying process that creates
1) ATTRACTION isn't a choice. It's an emotional
ATTRACTION is nature's way of taking over our
minds and bodies long enough to make sure that we
mate with someone with the best possible genes.
I realize that this sounds pretty "clinical"
and lame, but it's the damn truth.
Attraction isn't concerned with you, her, or
love. It's evolved over a long period of time,
and it has a purpose that is very important.
2) ATTRACTION isn't logical, in the sense that it
isn't created by things that "should" create it.
Buying women dinner and gifts, giving lots of
compliments when you first meet a woman, and
kissing up to women to get their approval are
examples of "logical" things that SHOULD create
attraction... but don't.
When you understand how attraction works, you
begin to see that it has a "logic" all its own.
Attraction is one of my favorite subjects...
and I think you should understand it if you want
to be successful with women.
3) Women aren't attracted to guys who act like
When guys give lots of
compliments, seek approval, act clingy, or try to
go out of their way to be overly "nice", it
Women run from Wussy men (either that or they
go shoe shopping with them... and the guy usually
4) Unfortunately, many guys are mentally
programmed to a sort of "Default Wussy" mode of
behavior when they encounter a woman who they're
When you combine this Default Wuss mode with
nervous body language, you create an almost-impossible barrier between you and ever creating
5) Just like a painting or a song, too much can
ruin an interaction with a woman.
You must know when to leave, hang up, or end
Leaving at the right moment creates tension,
anticipation and mystery.
YOU EITHER INCREASE OR DECREASE ATTRACTION -
IT'S ALWAYS EITHER GOING UP OR DOWN...
Of course, there are more ingredients to
ATTRACTION, but these will set the stage for where
I'm going with this...
In every situation, you can do something to
INCREASE the ATTRACTION... and you can do
something to DECREASE it. In other words, there's
always a way to dial up this magical emotion.
And yes, you can increase the ATTRACTION even
when you've just met. In fact, this is often the
best time to do it.
Let me ask you a question...
What would most guys do in the situation with
the waitress (or maybe a bartender)?
You're in a bar, you're chatting with the cute
gal serving drinks or behind the bar. You're being
Cocky and Funny, busting on her, etc. and she's
enjoying your company. You say "Hey, do you have
email?" and she writes it down for you...
WHAT DO YOU DO?
a) Sit there and keep talking.
b) Stay and talk to her a few more times.
c) Wait around hoping that you can go home
So let's do a little critical thinking about
this situation before I comment (or maybe this
will be the comment, we'll see).
(a) sit there and keep talking, what's likely to
In my experience, unless you're the ultimate
Mac Daddy of all time, the only place to go is
Think about it... you got her info. You did it.
She's working. She's only going to get busy, which
will probably make the conversation more
And then there's the risk of saying or doing
something stupid, getting too drunk to make sense,
or just having the interaction go cold.
All in all, you have very little chance of
anything good happening, and a great chance of
having something not-so-good happening.
Doesn't sound like a very good idea to me.
(b) stay there in the bar (maybe join friends who
show up), and talk to her a few more times while
ordering drinks, etc. what is likely to happen?
Again, we're dealing with a situation that
almost can't get any BETTER. Remember, she already
gave you the info. Now she might start thinking
"Oh, this is just another loser who hangs out all
night and gets drunk with his buddies... like the
other 47 guys who hit on me."
Or you might say something dumb... or you might
tip her too much or too little and make a strange
impression... or any of a lot of things.
All downside risk, no upside rewards.
(c) wait around hoping that you can go home with
her, I think you're REALLY taking your chances in
Again, unless you're the ultimate pick-up
artist of all time, you're not likely to be taking
home the bartender by sitting in front of her and
drinking all night... for the same reasons listed
But what if:
(d) YOU LEFT IMMEDIATELY after getting her info?
What effect does DISAPPEARING have on an
interaction like this one?
Well, let me ask you: What effect does
disappearing have IN GENERAL on people?
It creates curiosity, mystery, etc. It makes
the other person think "I wonder where he/she had
to go so fast?"
You can also combine this with having something
very INTERESTING to do. For instance, you might
"Nice talking to you... I'm going to go meet up
with some friends to have some SERIOUS fun."
This technique of leaving the moment I've
gotten a woman's information has worked WONDERS
for me... and for many guys I know.
The long and the short of it is that if you
stick around after you get the info, you create no
tension, no mystery, and no curiosity.
On the other hand, if you LEAVE IMMEDIATELY,
and have something interesting (even if you don't
say what it is) to go do, then you're seen as
busy... the kind of guy who has a life... someone
who is in demand.
Leaving turns up the ATTRACTION. It creates
Women are used to guys hanging on, clinging,
and generally NOT having other things to do.
It's something that will INSTANTLY separate you
from other guys, and something that will
demonstrate all the right qualities with a single
Remember, you can do things to INCREASE or
DECREASE the ATTRACTION in any given situation. I
recommend that you start thinking of how to
increase it as much as you possibly can, because
if a woman feels ATTRACTION, then almost nothing
Let's shift gears.
When it comes to CREATING ATTRACTION, you can
take it to the next level... and the next... all
the way to the point of "getting physical" with a
...I've gone from not being able to even TALK
to a woman I don't know... to being able to
approach any woman in any situation and have a
VERY HIGH chance of getting a date with her... and
of course more, if I want.
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